How I Became a Writer

“A writer is someone for whom writing is more difficult than it is for other people.”

— Thomas Mann

How I Became a Writer and Why It Matters for the Stories We Tell

I became a writer long before I ever said the word out loud. As a child, I was constantly accused of being “lost in space,” but really, I was living in the worlds I built inside my head. I wandered through imagined forests, invented creatures, and played out stories no one else could see. Storytelling was the language my mind spoke long before I understood it as craft.

I wrote poems, sketched characters, and dreamed up entire worlds, but I kept most of it tucked away. Sharing felt too vulnerable. Too exposing. Too much like saying, Here is the softest part of me, please be gentle.

Then a friend of mine started writing a book. She was brave enough to share her work, even after receiving some painfully harsh editorial feedback. Her courage nudged something in me. If she could be brave enough to put her stories into the world, maybe I could too.

Still, I hesitated to call myself a writer. The word felt too big, too official, like a title I hadn’t earned. One day, while talking to an acquaintance in a coffee shop, I said something like, “Well, I don’t know if I can call myself a writer…” She looked at me and said, simply:

“Do you write? Then you are a writer.”

Something in me settled at those words. It was the permission I didn’t know I’d been waiting for.

Writing gives me a kind of satisfaction nothing else does: the quiet joy of shaping a world, the comfort of exploring themes that matter to me, the thrill of creating something that feels true. It helps me process, understand, and make sense of things. There’s a quiet magic in building something from nothing, in watching a story take shape where there was once only a feeling or a question.

I had a difficult, complicated childhood, and as a teacher, parent, and writer, I’m always thinking about the children who feel unseen or misunderstood. I want my stories to be a place where they can feel safe, recognized, and less alone. My inner “lost in space” child still loves finding magic in nature and in the small, ordinary corners of the world, and that wonder shapes the stories I write.

And this is why I care so deeply about helping other writers uncover the emotional truth of their characters. Because writing has always been how I made sense of my own. The emotional core of a character isn’t just a craft concept; it’s the heartbeat of a story. It’s the part that makes a reader feel seen.

I’m still becoming a writer, and maybe I always will be. But stories connect us, and I’m grateful to be learning how to tell mine—and to help you tell yours.

Recommended Reading for Writers

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• Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott

• On Writing by Stephen King

• The Emotional Craft of Fiction by Donald Maass

If you’re exploring your own writing identity…

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• 6 Questions That Reveal Your Character’s Emotional Core

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• Why Your Protagonist’s Wound Matters More Than You Think

And if you’re working on a fantasy, MG, YA, or romantasy manuscript and want support shaping the emotional heart of your story, you can explore my editing services or download one of my free worksheets to guide your next writing session.

Your stories matter. I’m glad you’re here.